Safety Planning

From Nests and Wings: A Zine on Family and Partner Violence, Support and Healing

General Safety Tips

*Keep your door to your room locked. If partner has key, have lock changed
*Keep your car locked
*Tell your roommate and those close to you what to be aware of
*Keep your ID and keys on you
*Change your phone number
*Screen your phone calls
*Take self-defense class
*Travel with others
*Inform Public Safety
*Document each incident that happens, including what, when, & where, as well as who is present

Password Security

*Keep your passwords to yourself
*Change your passwords often
*Avoid checking secure websites near partner that is abusive
*Use codes to protect your voicemail and access to your computer

Safety During an Incident

*Have a safe way to escape the situation
*Stay in a room with a phone, if you can’t leave
*Escape to a place with more people 
*Trust your judgment

Legal Options

*Keep in mind that you can always call 911 if you are in danger
*If you no longer want contact with an ex-partner, roommate, or close relative, you can file for an order of protection (Restraining Order).
* You can also pursue criminal charges or file a formal report on campus. RISE can help you navigate this if you are interested.

Ending an Abusive Relationship

For some folks, ending an abusive relationship is the time that feels most dangerous. Keep this in mind when preparing to leave. There are people who can help you, but here are a couple of ideas:
*Have a packed bag ready
*Be familiar with local resources
*Find someone you trust to keep hold of copies of important documents, money, copies of keys, etc. The RISE Project Director can help you with this.

Support

*Knowing who and where you can go for support can help you stay safe. Who are the friends, family members, and others that you trust?
*Carry resource information with you, such as the phone numbers for: RISE, Helpmate Pisgah Legal (local legal aid clinic), and the National Domestic Violence Hotline.